Category Archives: Social Commentary

RALPH LAUREN X FASHION’S NIGHT OUT TONIGHT!

Tonight is the 2nd Annual Fashion’s Night Out!

To celebrate Ralph Lauren’s Rugby stores are extending their hours and donating 40% of all proceeds to the NYC AIDS Fund.

Shoppers in the NYC store can hear live music and enjoy awesome deals until 11pm!

Shoppers at ALL Rugby stores get a FREE Rugby ball tonight!

So Go Enjoy Fashion’s Night Out and support a great cause with Ralph Lauren Rugby Stores!


You are an EX for a reason

Am I going to hold my shit…or am I going to give in to all the feelings…
This is NOT Sex In the City and I am NOT Carrie and you are NOT my Mr. Big!

This isn’t directly on point to what I’m going through…but he makes some good points and Lord I’m going through it….
I love you B Scott…


Men with Emotional Baggage…


Men with emotional baggage are worst than women. Namely because it takes men one maybe at best two instances to really fall for a girl and it not work out for him to punish every subsequent woman they come into contact with. Women can get hurt over and over again and still fall head over heels over and over again. I subsisted in a relationship for over a year with someone that could not move past his past and I realize in retrospect my most recent relationship was destined for disaster because he could not separate me from his ex and was constantly “holding his breath” in anticipation that I would treat him the way his ex did. I went into these situations well aware of the baggage but thought if I proved myself different if I really put my heart and soul into the person that it would work.

But the catch is…there is NOTHING I could do to get rid of their baggage…they had to decide for themselves to put the emotional load down….that wasn’t my burden to bear and never again will I embark on trying to build anything with someone who is burdened with baggage.

Take the bad experiences of the past and learn and grow from them…don’t take the bad bag it up and beat up and punish your present relationship with it….

One day all them bags gon get in your way….you gon miss your bus…


Happy Valentines Day


A big kick rocks and splash of haterade to all you people in love doing it big this weekend for Valentines day..the only thing I actually like abt it is that I get to play Andre 3000 on repeat:


Looking for Mr. Right

The holidays are bitter sweet for me….one of the largest things that weighed on my mind this holiday season was that I am single.

To say I’m “looking” for Mr. Right is a bit of a misnomer…while I am not actively going out with the sole purpose of “looking” to jump into a relationship I would like the companionship, support, and comfort that comes with a relationship.

Although I live in a city heavily populated with attractive, professional men I seem to never quite find what I’m looking for and if I do 9 times out of 10 he’s unavailable.

So before I describe my Mr. Right let me tell you a bit about me:
I am a 25 year old African American female. I am 5’9 slim build and love sports. I am college educated and recently graduated with my Doctorate in law. I work in the music industry doing management. I am very down to earth, strong in my faith in God and what he has done for my life, confident, driven, and I must admit I thrive on dry humor.

So now on to Mr Right…here are my top 5 qualities that I believe my Mr. Right will posses in order of importance:

1. Spiritual
This is the absolute most important thing on my list. When things are going well as well as when things are going bad I need a man that will be a spiritual leader in our relationship. Someone who relies on God to guide him in his relationship with me and his overall daily life is extremely important. Religious preference is not as huge as simply having an active relationship with God and living your life in accordance with it.

2. Respectful
You will respect me. I am a firm believer in female roles and I will wash, cook, clean, sew if you would like me to but before any of that can happen you MUST respect me and most of all yourself. You will not disrespect me in front of your friends, family, in public and think I will give you the time of day. You will not talk to me crazy, HUGE PET PEEVE, you will not talk down to me, call me out my name, etc. If I tell you something makes me uncomfortable that I don’t like it and you continue to do it you are disrespecting me. If you don’t take care of your personal hygiene and you stay wasted, high, etc you don’t respect yourself so I know we can’t be together hands down. I could go on this topic for a while so let me just leave it there…

3. Confident
I am very confident in who I am and what I believe. In a relationship I want my man to be confident in his values, foundation, and core beliefs. I want him to be confident enough in himself to be open to trying new things and experience new situations.

4. Driven
I am a very driven person and I need the person that I am with to have similar drive and ambition to not just talk about what they want but to go out and get it. Being around someone who is driven not only pushes me to be a better person but it also allows me to learn so much from a persons teaching style, work ethic, leadership style, and ability to build and maintain professional relationships.

5. Wordly
I’ve travelled the world and experienced way more than the average 25 year old from growing up on the east side of Cleveland, to living on an organic farm in rural Vermont, and attending college Beijing China. I need a man who is open to those kind of experiences and has his own to share with me and open my eyes to. Whether its a book I’ve never read, music I’ve never heard, or some part of the world I’ve never been to I need a man who loves to learn and embrace all the experiences and cultures the world has to offer.

If a man has these things he is golden in my book. Tall, short, black, white it doesn’t matter. But it definitely seems like these things are a rarity…..AM I ASKING FOR TOO MUCH? AM I BEING UNREALISTIC?

PLEASE SEE AN UPDATE TO THIS POST HERE

MEN: WHAT ARE YOUR TOP 5?

WOMEN: These are my personal top 5.  WHAT ARE YOUR TOP 5 ?


Music Monday: Snoop… Gin & Juice

This is more of a vent post….

I’ve spent the last two month working on an event. Now that its the week of the event now everyone is coming out of the wood work talking about “Do you need anything” “Am I on the list” etc…WHERE YOU BEEN THE PAST TWO MONTHS talking about “Do I need anything” YEAH FOOL I need you to show up to help before the day of the event adding yo wack two cents.
But worst yet

Everyone has their little two cents to add about what should be added or taken away and what they would have done but was nowhere to be found when actual work was being done

….Snoop said it best…

EVERYBODY GOT THEY CUP BUT THEY AINT CHIPPED IN/
NOW THIS TYPE OF SHIT HAPPENS ALL OF THE TIME/
YOU GOT TO GET YOURS BUT FOOL I GOTS TO GETS MINE/

…enjoy this throw back for Music Monday:


He’s Phoney She’s Fake….

Those the type of people I hate. ….
whispering
Listen its a recession people….when you are down to your last dollar the most valuable thing that you have is your WORD. But it seems that as of late every word that comes out someone’s mouth, twitter, fb,bbm is a lie or some inflated version of the truth.

Let take it back to the days where keeping it real meant telling the truth and not false flagging to gain some sense of internet notariety or sick enjoyment out of the deception of people…

QUESTION TO MY READERS: Do you ever really know a person?

Seriously, I know people who date for years get married and then feel like they don’t know the person they married. Or a person finds themself in some kind of predicament and the people who they thought would support them in tough times were no where to be found….

DO YOU EVER REALLY KNOW A PERSON?

Shout out to Swizzy and Jadakiss #musicmonday: