The holidays are bitter sweet for me….one of the largest things that weighed on my mind this holiday season was that I am single.
To say I’m “looking” for Mr. Right is a bit of a misnomer…while I am not actively going out with the sole purpose of “looking” to jump into a relationship I would like the companionship, support, and comfort that comes with a relationship.
Although I live in a city heavily populated with attractive, professional men I seem to never quite find what I’m looking for and if I do 9 times out of 10 he’s unavailable.
So before I describe my Mr. Right let me tell you a bit about me:
I am a 25 year old African American female. I am 5’9 slim build and love sports. I am college educated and recently graduated with my Doctorate in law. I work in the music industry doing management. I am very down to earth, strong in my faith in God and what he has done for my life, confident, driven, and I must admit I thrive on dry humor.
So now on to Mr Right…here are my top 5 qualities that I believe my Mr. Right will posses in order of importance:
This is the absolute most important thing on my list. When things are going well as well as when things are going bad I need a man that will be a spiritual leader in our relationship. Someone who relies on God to guide him in his relationship with me and his overall daily life is extremely important. Religious preference is not as huge as simply having an active relationship with God and living your life in accordance with it.
You will respect me. I am a firm believer in female roles and I will wash, cook, clean, sew if you would like me to but before any of that can happen you MUST respect me and most of all yourself. You will not disrespect me in front of your friends, family, in public and think I will give you the time of day. You will not talk to me crazy, HUGE PET PEEVE, you will not talk down to me, call me out my name, etc. If I tell you something makes me uncomfortable that I don’t like it and you continue to do it you are disrespecting me. If you don’t take care of your personal hygiene and you stay wasted, high, etc you don’t respect yourself so I know we can’t be together hands down. I could go on this topic for a while so let me just leave it there…
I am very confident in who I am and what I believe. In a relationship I want my man to be confident in his values, foundation, and core beliefs. I want him to be confident enough in himself to be open to trying new things and experience new situations.
I am a very driven person and I need the person that I am with to have similar drive and ambition to not just talk about what they want but to go out and get it. Being around someone who is driven not only pushes me to be a better person but it also allows me to learn so much from a persons teaching style, work ethic, leadership style, and ability to build and maintain professional relationships.
I’ve travelled the world and experienced way more than the average 25 year old from growing up on the east side of Cleveland, to living on an organic farm in rural Vermont, and attending college Beijing China. I need a man who is open to those kind of experiences and has his own to share with me and open my eyes to. Whether its a book I’ve never read, music I’ve never heard, or some part of the world I’ve never been to I need a man who loves to learn and embrace all the experiences and cultures the world has to offer.
If a man has these things he is golden in my book. Tall, short, black, white it doesn’t matter. But it definitely seems like these things are a rarity…..AM I ASKING FOR TOO MUCH? AM I BEING UNREALISTIC?
MEN: WHAT ARE YOUR TOP 5?
WOMEN: These are my personal top 5. WHAT ARE YOUR TOP 5 ?